Child taught with love learns genesis of
like ti think of their children as geniuses, but
Julia Fekete has more reason than most. A the
age of four her son Leslie speaks three
languages. Beáta Pál went to meet her and find
out her philosophy on educating him.
It is getting more
unusual for a woman in our busy world to be
ready to give up a promising career and devote
all her time to being at home with her child
Julia Fekete is just such a woman and the joyous
mother of four-and-half-year-old Leslie.
Julia has an MA in economics, though she thinks
that being a full-time mother is the most
important thing at this time in her son's life.
She exemplifies the basic fact that mothers are
the world's best teachers and young children can
learn virtually anithing that is taught to them
in an honest, factual and loving way.
Julia shines whenever she talks to her blond,
blue-eyed son. She gives full answers and
explains everything Leslie is curious about.
" always give him a thorough answer. My secret
is to go joyously like the wind and not to test"
- she said.
In other words, she
talks to him in a warm, relaxed and clear voice,
employing a relatively complicated vocabulary
for a four-and-a-half-year-old child. For
example, when Leslie sees a Porsche (card and
trucks are his favorite), she uses the world "burgundy"
instead of simply "red" to describe it.
"I want to give him every opportunity to develop
and let him experience constant stimulaton,"
She never tells him
not to disturb her because she always has time
for hime and she never tests Leslie's knowledge.
If he does not know the right answer Julia tells
him with a smile so that he does not feel
ashamed. She would not punish him with a
question such as "What did I tell you five
minutes ago?" This way he gains a sence of
self-confodence, she explained.
Julia had preparde for motherhood, with her
husband, using 40 years of experience and
knowledge of the Philadelphia-based Institute
for the Achievement of Human Potential.
The goal of the Institute is to significantly
raise the ability of all children in
intellectual, physsical and social realms. The
organization takes children, regardless of their
capabilities, and helps them advance in these
areas to the full extent of the staff's
knowledge, the parents'
Aspirations and the child's potential.
conceived in Hungary, just like his father, and
born in North America. It was natural to teach
him both English Hungarian, so both languages
are his mother-tongue-spoken at the same level.
He can communicate fluntla, switching from one
language to the other, and he sometimes speaks
French as well.
It has been proven
that the first theree years of life are the most
important for development. The child's brain is
like a sponge during this period, capadle of
taking in massive amount of information. The
Institue concentrates on making the most of this
optimal time in a child's life for assimilating
The Institute's program brings mothers and
babies closer together because everything they
do is with love and warmth.
Glenn and Janet Doman are the authors of several
books dealing with the topic of how to teach
babies to read, how to multiply their
intelligence, give them encyclopedic knowledge
and how to make them physically superb.
"I have read all those books and have applied
their theories. The most important thing is that
you have to live your child and teach him with
loving care, " said Julia.
Leslie listined to
classical music such as Mozart's
The Magic Flute
while still in his mother's stomatch. Is
stimulated him then and now Leslie plays the
violin. He started taking Suzuki violin lessons
at the age of three. The Japanese Suzuki blieved
in early childhood music education and employed
methods to keep children interested and occupied,
even letting them play the violin whilr marching
or lying on their backs.
" He did not want to put his violin down when we
bought it for him and he has practiced with me
every day," Julia said.
responsibilites, simple duties like watering
plants or answering the phone.
"He can do these highly-responsible jobs and it
gives him the sence of who he is - an important
member of the household" said Julia.
Leslie can use
tools easily and, for example, cuts with
scissors, which is useful for his sence of
It has been proved
that physical education is as important as
intellectual, so Leslie swims and runs several
miles with his parents regulary.
The first six years of life are the genesis of a
genius,when significant changes take place in
brain development . Development of visual,
auditory, tactile, mobilse, language and manual
competence depends not upon genetic factors, but
on the freqency, intensity and duration of
simuli provided to the brain by the child's
environment - the family.
in the Life of a Proffesional Mother
When mothers and
fathers attend the
How To Multiply Your
Course they are so many exciting and worthwhile
things to teach their babies. Their enthusiasm
builds throughout the week as they learn how to
teach their children reading, math encyclopedic
knowledge, physical excellence, music, and
And so by Friday afternoon when they are given
the opportunity to ask questions of the Evan
Thomas Institute mothers, one of the most common
questions is "Could you please describe a
typical day at your home?"
At first the
mothers simpla smile as they recall when they
took the course and wondered how all of these
subjects-plus the everyday challenges of
life-could possibly fit into a day. Then a
mother, usually one that has a few young
children, will calmly list their basic
activities on a normal day.
Of course, very few days with young children can
be called normal, and a mother must be organized
enough to have a daily plan yet flexible enough
to change every bit of it if her child or the
events of the day demand it.
What would a good
workable daily schedule look like? For the
answer we went to two very experienced
professional mothers, Rosalind Doman and Carol
Newell. Both mothers have three Children- one a
full-time member of the International School,
the second a parttime member of the school, and
the third on a full home program.
chronicled for us a typical spring day, when her
two youngest children (Spencer 6 years, and
Morgan 18 monts) had just switshed from doing
their wintertime Primary Human Development
Course (creeping and crawling) to a springtime
program of running and gymnastics.
Because ten years
old Marlowe is in school between 8:30 a.m.and
4:00 p.m., his home program takes place before
and after those hours.
Carol Newel also let us in on a typical day with
her three children. She chose to descibre a
summer day, when all three children are at home.
Ben is nine years old, Shayna is seven years,
and Mary is ten monts old.
For parents just
beginning to organize a daily home program, or
those who have begun but are wondering how to
expand the daily program, this is their chance
to see truly professional mothers at work.
Reprinted from The
IN-REPORT Ápril/June 1994